Let's chat, ladies...
Here's a situation from biblical counselor Elyse Fitzpatrick. Read it and tell me what you think:
As a counselor I frequently hear from wives who believe they have a "need" to be appreciated by their husband. What they say to me usually goes something like this: "My husband doesn't appreciate anything that I do for him. Why, just yesterday I spent extra time making his favorite dinner, and I had the house and the kids nice and tidy when he got home. He just walked in, turned on the television, and plopped himself down in front of a T.V. tray and gobbled up his food. I don't think that he even noticed all that I had done for him. I'm tired of not getting the strokes that I need. In fact, I'm thinking that maybe I should leave him. After all, I have a need to be appreciated. My self-esteem is so low right now, I don't think I could stand another day with him."
(Overcoming Fear, Worry and Anxiety, p.75)
Ok, let's pretend this woman is talking to you. She's your really good friend. Given that we've recently talked about how the state of your marriage is my business, how would you help your friend with this hurtful and frustrating situation? Where in Scripture would you take her? If you're in this very same situation, how do you deal with it?
Ready. Set. Discuss.
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