A very wise man just shared with me recently that he believes that ultimately, in light of Ephesians 5:22, that women change much more than men do. In the process of Spirit-enabled submission, women must change.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
(Ephesians 5:22 ESV)
My husband has matured in many ways, but there are ways he has not changed one bit in 25 years, and he'll be the first one to tell you that. I can tell you, also, that in response to those changes that have not happened, I have had to change in that I have to accept certain things and make changes in my own life to live with those things about him that don't change. He probably does the same thing, too, but it was this man's opinion (and he's been married 20 years, so he's not an idealistic newlywed or anything) that his wife has had to change more than he has.I'm kind of still trying to process the concept and decide if I agree or disagree. My thoughts are slightly scattered. Does submission produce more change in a woman than loving sacrificially does in a man? Would God give women an advantage like that? Does thinking this way set a wife up for self-righteously believing herself to have progressed further in the Christian life than she actually has? In any case, it was an interesting idea and I thought I would throw it out there to see what you all thought. Here are some questions to guide your thinking:
Is maturing the same as changing?
Do you think that submission naturally creates more change in wives? Why or why not?
In looking back over the years that you have been married, can you genuinely see evidence of one of you changing more than the other?
Ready, set, go.
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