I'd like to challenge us to rethink some of the popular cultural attitudes towards marriage. These are aspects that even the church has bought into and that most of us believe are completely normal. But the thing is, when it comes down to it, many of these beliefs are simply not Scriptural. And I'm all about going back to Scripture and using it as a basis for life. Why? Well, because...
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work. (2 Tim 3:16-17)
I'm guessing that many of you will feel uncomfortable with some of the things I'm going to challenge. I know that because I was uncomfortable when I began to be challenged on some of these things. My mind kept jumping to the "but-what-abouts" of every situation. But much of the time I had light-bulb moments as I realized that what I believed came not from Scripture but from secular sources. I also realize that many of you will completely disagree based on your interpretation of Scripture or your own personal experience. That's fine. I get it. Let's talk about it.
So this is going to be a series...and I'm only going to do one topic per week. Every topic will need to be digested, and I welcome discussion and even disagreement. But I would like to ask a few things:
1) Let yourself be uncomfortable and wrestle through any thoughts that are different to you.
2) Let's stick to Scripture. If you disagree, please point it out Scripturally.
3) Let's be respectful of each other's viewpoints and let's assume that everyone is goodwilled. No judging of another reader's spiritual maturity or immaturity.
Here are the topics I'd like to tackle over the next several weeks:
1) God only wants us to be happy in our marriages; unhappy marriages are out of God's will.
2) Only the professionals have the tools to generate change in a struggling marriage.
3) Divorce is the only solution when a spouse commits adultery.
4) Abuse requires an immediate and automatic divorce (I'm actually going to back off this one and allow an abuse survivor to address it.)
5) "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior": can anyone experience real permanent change?
I'll start this series tomorrow with the first one on the list. Looking forward to some great discussions!